Well, it was my third wedding attended this summer, and now it is my third wedding blogged. And still, it was amazing.
This wedding was unlike the two previously attended. This one was not attended by hundreds of guests nor was it followed by a huge reception with a live band or the release of doves. In fact, this wedding had very little of the "glitter" that most people assume you have to have at a wedding.
There were roughly 50 or 60 people who came to this small ceremony held in a beautiful courtyard, and it was followed by a small reception with cake and hors d'oeuvres (or as I say "or-derves") where the Bride and Groom were able to fellowship with their closest friends. However, one thing remained the same--the wonderment.
It never ceases to amaze me--the look in each other's eyes, as they stand there with their entire future ahead of them. Large or small wedding, young or old, first marriage, second marriage, third marriage, it doesn't matter one bit. It never changes. It's a stare that proclaims that the earth around them could literally crumble into pieces, and yet they have assurance the ground on which they stand would remain. It is a look of Joy--I have finally found you. Desparation--I never want to lose you. Passion--I want only you. Gratitude--I need only you. It's the look of wonderment that is always present at a wedding. And it was definitely there this weekend.
HOWEVER...things change. In almost every marriage the look disappears either in a matter of months or it could take years. But why?!?! Is it pressures of work? Day-to-day reality? Does the novelty wears off? Who knows. The fact remains--the wonderment disappears
It's inevitable. YES. But luckily it's not permanent. This disease of our heart and mind is reversible. THERE IS A CURE!!! It's a little medicine called SELF-LESS-NESS. Romans 2:8 shares, "But for those who are self seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there weill be wrath and anger." (And if your a husband out there that has been selfseeking at some point in your marriage--and we ALL have--you can attest to what is referred to as "wrath and anger.") But it doesn't matter if you the husband or the wife. If you make a choice today--each day--to be truly selfless, the look in your spouse's eye will return and vice versa. But remember, as with everything in this world, it's a choice. We chose to be selfish, and likewise, we can choose to be selfless. "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8
Congratulations Donnie & Barbara. You have a lot of people praying for you.
And to my wife, Danielle . . . . I love you and I pray my love will always be selfless.
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I appreciate you talking about this because I have had a lot of really bad examples of marriages gone wrong and I think it had a lot to do with this main issue. It gives me hope agian that it is worth it to be married :)
Thank you so much for putting Donnie & Barbara's wedding on your web page. This is the one young woman that Donnie was able to tell me that he could not picture the rest of his life without her in it. That made a mother very happy. I love my son and I love his sweet new wife. I pray they will always feel this complete love for each other the rest of their lives. They are allowing God to direct their marriage and that is what it is all about, honoring our Lord and Saviour in ALL that we do. Thanks again.
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